Living in a Two Household Environment

Living in a Two Household Environment

Mira Zamarro ’24

As a child with divorced parents, I have been through the pros and cons of living in a two household environment. There are many ups and downs in this way of life, and I have experienced both sides. Not only do I get the chance to be raised by two completely different people, I get to learn to contrast life lessons along the way. In my opinion, living with separated parents can be substantial for childhood development.

My father joined the army when he was in college, so he has grown to be tough and live on the bare minimum. He raised me to be resilient, and he was not as picky when it came to rules. He trusted me to build my own responsibility from a young age. My mother raised me to be full of kindness and leadership. She was a little more protective and organized than my father. She taught me that asking for help is never a bad thing. Alternating between these two households was confusing, and I often felt overwhelmed by how different they were. It was stressful, but it has made me a more resilient person in the long run.

My parents have split their time about 50/50 since I was little. They were both happy to adjust the way they raised my brother and me. They never had to compromise as to how they raised their kids. Because of this, I was taught different life lessons by each parent. Over the years, my mom and dad helped me develop my identity in different ways. I took what I liked from both of them, and I left what I did not.

However, it might be a better environment for a child’s development in a two-parent household. Living with the same routine every day may be slightly less stressful and easier on the mind. It was always hard for me to remember what bus to take home or which bed I was sleeping in that night. School and extracurricular activities may be made easier in a two-parent household because of constant travel distance. If the two households the child lives in are far from each other, it is more difficult. It is also possible that the financial situation in a two-parent environment is easier too: less bills, two incomes and simpler taxes. All of these reasons would support the idea that a two parent household is more supportive to a child’s development.

Although that may be the case, I still strongly believe that two household environments can be extremely beneficial to childhood development. You are learning life lessons from two completely different people, and you also get the opportunity to live in two different lifestyles and pursue adulthood with more exposure to the outside world.

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